It’s difficult watching a loved one struggle with addiction. You want to help, but don’t know where to begin. Even worse, it’s not uncommon for family members to believe they’re providing support when their actions actually enable the addiction. In other cases, a loved one may be struggling with addiction, but are also highly functional. Enabling these family members could be as simple as looking the other way.
Professional interventionists help prepare families for a productive discussion with their loved ones about their addiction. The goal of the intervention is not to place blame on the addict, but instead to hold everyone, including family members, accountable for their behavior. This mediation can be a powerful tool for guiding a loved one toward recovery. Let’s take a closer look at the common concerns that families have about planning an intervention:
Will This Push My Loved One Over the Edge?
One of the questions we hear most often is, “Won’t this confrontation push my loved one over the edge?” Many people are concerned that confronting the addict’s behavior directly will create an even more dangerous situation. Families also worry that if a professional intervention doesn’t go well, then their loved one will stop speaking to them or coming to them for help.
Interventions, especially those staged and organized by a professional, have a high rate of success. Even if a loved one does denies help, the family can respond by ending their enabling behaviors. Denying money for food or shelter can encourage the addicted family member to recognize the consequences of their actions and choose to get help on their own.
At the same time, family members must consider their own breaking point. Is your loved one’s behavior pushing you to your own edge? Are you getting increasingly frustrated with their choices, and recognizing the negative impact their behavior is having on your own life? You may be too emotionally exhausted to support your loved one the right way if you continue delaying an intervention.
What About Waiting for Rock Bottom?
Many people erroneously believe the argument that you have to wait for an individual to hit “rock bottom” before he or she can begin their journey down the road to recovery. We don’t believe in this claim, especially since rock bottom can mean injury, incarceration or death. We believe a person is ready to accept help when he can see the adverse consequences of his actions. This is exactly what a family-focused professional interventionist is trained to do.
How Do We Reach A Professional Interventionist?
In order for an intervention to be successful, each family member must be on the same page. If an intervention fails, it’s usually because some family members convince themselves that it won’t be a success. This is just another reason that working with a professional interventionist is so important.
If your family is considering an intervention for a loved one, reach out to Family First Intervention. We will send a professional interventionist directly to families, regardless of where they are located in the United States. We also help each family members to establish boundaries that come from a place of love and concern. Contact us directly to learn more about how we help families start their own recovery journey.
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