As a circle of family and friends, you have watched this person you so loved and cared for turn in to an addict. And, you have inadvertently helped them stay that way since the beginning. There is no blame in a situation like this, merely there is responsibility and taking part in an alcohol intervention is going to allow everyone involved to shoulder their accountability and get help to remedy the situation.
Status quo is not progress. This means that if someone who is suffering keeps going at exactly the same pace and rate that they have continuously done so, they will never get out of the habit. Addiction causes people to do things that would not normally be in their character were they not under the influence of drugs or alcohol. It also causes family and friends to do things outside of their nature, and unless they get help, the addict will come back to the status quo and the cycle could possibly continue on. An alcohol intervention is not just for the person suffering from substance abuse, but for the people surrounding him and her to learn what their role was and how to break out of it.
Enabling is defined as “to supply with the means, knowledge, or opportunity; make able” which is what family and friends have done and allowed their loved one to continue on with abusing alcohol or drugs without consequences. This is through no fault of their own necessarily, but is an act borne out of love. No one wants to see someone they care about hurting, even if that hurt is of their own doing, and anything they can do to ease that hurt or take some of it off of the shoulders of the addict seems like a good idea at the time.
Benefits of Alcohol Intervention
An alcohol intervention will allow everyone to see the significance of their actions, or inaction as the case might be, and to seek a remedy for the scenario to change. While the addict is the one mostly affected by the substance abuse, they need to shoulder most of the responsibility as well, and are the ones least likely to do so. As a circle of love, it is going to be a much more successful mediation if you push more for rehabilitation and recovery than for reconciliation and reprimand.
Success in Family Intervention
The success of a drug intervention is not based solely upon whether the substance abuser never touches alcohol or drugs again, but rather that they realize the harm they have done and make a sincere and conscious effort to change their behavior for the better, and that everyone around them realizes how they have contributed. A family intervention is going to give you the best chances at not only getting the addict in to a treatment program, but also getting their friends and family to seek therapy for their enabling as well.