Drug abuse and lying go hand-in-hand. Where one goes, the other is sure to follow. If you are concerned about a loved one who is addicted to cocaine, you have no doubt heard more than your fair share of excuses and falsehoods over several months and years. This pattern damages your relationship with your loved one and destroys his or her credibility.
Addiction and Lying
Have you ever heard this saying?: “How do you know an addict is lying? He opens his mouth.” This disease has the ability to turn the most honest, hard-working and dependable person into someone you can’t recognize. Once it takes hold, nothing will get in the way of the person who hopes to keep it going. That’s where the denial and lying start. In the case of a cocaine addiction, add in the extra fact that you are dealing with an illegal drug. Some other reasons your loved one may lie about his or her addiction could include:
- To keep the addiction secret
Your loved one may lie in an attempt to keep the addiction or the extent of his or her cocaine use secret for as long as possible.
- To avoid confrontation about the addiction
Addicts don’t want to take responsibility for their behavior around their addiction. They start using drugs as a coping mechanism to deal with stress or emotional pain because they don’t have the skills to deal with these things directly. Lying is a way to deflect attention away from the issue of their addiction.
- To keep the addiction going
A cocaine addict is going to do whatever he or she needs to do to keep feeding the addiction. They need to have access to a supply of the drug and money or property they can trade or sell to get it. Lying is a way to help them achieve this goal.
Take Charge with an Intervention
Dealing with an addicted loved one can feel overwhelming. You and your family may feel as if the situation is out of control. If you have been wondering how to deal with cocaine lies and manipulation, an interventionist can address this issue with you before you sit down with your loved one.
At the cocaine intervention, you will take charge of the situation by telling your loved one that it is time for him or her to be responsible for his or her actions. The family is not going to continue to listen to or accept any more lies. There is an offer of treatment and help on the table, but the old pattern of ignoring or enabling the addiction are finished. This process allows you and your family members to start living your own lives instead of having an addicted family member calling the shots.
Are you ready to take charge and cut through the lies? Contact Mike Loverde, interventionist, for help today.