Drug addiction has the potential to destroy not only the addict, but also his or her family. Once it takes hold, it’s like a steamroller. Despite what your addicted loved one will promise in his or her more reasonable moments, they no longer have any power over the disease. They can’t stop using drugs, even if they want to.
This is a problem that is not going to go away without help. You and your family may feel shocked, hurt, or embarrassed that you are in this situation. While all of those feelings are normal, you can’t stay stuck focused on how you feel. If you want to help your loved one, you need to get to the root of the problem, and that is your loved one.
The Issue is the Addicted Person
The issue in your home and your family is your loved one, not the type of drug he or she is using. If you are planning to do a drug intervention, you need to keep the focus squarely on the addict as the issue. Part of this process involves getting your family member to be accountable for his or her actions. Addicts are very good at shifting blame and not taking responsibility for anything they say or do.
When you and your family members have reached the point where you are no longer prepared to listen to someone who is being a professional victim, you’re ready to start the process of taking your lives back. Until that point, your addicted loved one is really in charge of the family. You may not have realized how much you have been jumping through hoops to keep him or her comfortable in the addiction by:
- Providing food
- Paying rent or bills
- Giving him or her a place to stay
- Providing money for drugs
- Paying debts (drug or other)
Plan a Drug Intervention
Your first step in how to do a family drug intervention is to reach out for professional help. You’ll get support to set boundaries so that you will no longer be enabling your family member’s addictive behavior. You and your family members will be able to take control of your lives.
Addicts need to be held accountable for their actions. At the intervention, each family member who chooses to participate will explain that he or she will no longer be supporting the addict in his or her addiction. Your addicted loved one will be offered the opportunity to go for treatment and to get well in a loving and caring manner. Arrangements for treatment are made in advance so that your loved one only needs to say, “Yes” to take that next step.
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