If someone you loved was drowning, what would you do? You have some choices. You could:
- Wait for them to learn how to swim and save themselves
- Wait for someone else to come along and pull them to safety
- Pull them to safety yourself
The right answer is that you should pull the person to safety. If you care for your loved one, that’s exactly what you do. When you’re dealing with a person who is drowning, there is a catch: you need to be careful that the person doesn’t pull you under the water as well. It’s entirely possible to put yourself at risk while trying to rescue someone who is drowning.
Families who try to help an addicted loved one do this all the time, too. By trying to help, they end up hurting themselves by enabling the addict in their lives.
No More Rescuing the Addict
It’s hard to change the focus of your relationship with the addicted person in your family. One of the goals of doing an addiction intervention is to change the dynamic from one where the addict is in charge to where the family is in control of the situation.
By the time a family contacts a professional interventionist, there have likely been many situations where they have rescued the addict in their midst. The rescues have likely started off as gestures that were meant to help, such as giving him or her money for rent or bills, or a place to stay. Some families have even resorted to buying drugs or alcohol for an addicted family member, since they think it’s safer for them to provide a “safe” place for them to drink or get high than if they were going out on the streets. All of these behaviors only serve to make the addiction even more difficult to deal with.
Take Charge with an Intervention
The intervention is not a single meeting, but an entire process. Before sitting down with your loved one, the interventionist will get to know you and your family members. You will discover that a FF intervention includes setting up some new ways of relating so you won’t get dragged down into your loved one’s addiction anymore.
The person you love will be invited to a meeting where he or she will be given the option of going for treatment that will change his or her life. This will be freely offered, and the person always has a choice about whether to accept help or not. They will also hear that the family will be setting healthier boundaries about what they are prepared to accept going forward.
Addiction is a life-threatening disease. It needs to be treated appropriately by caring, experienced counselors. You don’t have to let your loved one’s illness pull your family down for one more day when help is available. Call Family First Intervention right away to get the process started.