It may be hard to believe, but when it comes to interventions, most people think of the addict first and how to change them, instead of thinking of themselves and what part the family has over changing. Most people spend all of their time, energy and resources trying to just talk to their loved one or change rules thinking this will swear the addiction off. Truth is, most families are taught to enable by their loved one so that they don’t have to change making the addiction easier for them at the expense of the family.
Take the addiction, for example. Although the end result is drug and/or alcohol abuse, that is not the problem, just a symptom. Throwing away the addict’s paraphernalia, cleaning their room for them, making them sign a contract etc. just prolongs the process. We should focus on the root cause of the addiction itself and solve that problem, and that can vary from person to person. A dark example but real one is thinking that moving a sex offender away from a school will change the fact that they are a sex offender.
At the very core of it all, an addict is seeking to make themselves feel better or avoid something that might be uncomfortable to them. Addicts and alcoholics are able to do this only by changing family dynamics that cause their addiction to become more comfortable. Calling in an intervention specialist can help the family identify what family behaviors are contributing to the addiction being easier than it should. Through drug intervention programs, you can sort out the problem and fix that. Once that’s done, things become a lot more clear and your loved one can begin to own the addiction.
The pleasure seeking process changes as the addiction process draws out in length. In the beginning, it may be about just having a good time. As things progress, it can turn into avoiding discomfort, maybe between friends or family members that are trying to arrange intervention services for them. Even though it becomes about avoiding discomfort entirely, and the process may not be that much fun for them at all, your loved one actually gets comfortable being an addict or alcoholic. Instead of being the happy person at the party, they’re now in a corner trying to maintain their covering the pain of the problems that started this to begin with.
The addict or alcoholic will need the love and support of their family and friends to succeed, as well as the help of an intervention program of some kind. But with the right care and help, you can get them the treatment they deserve.