You hear about interventions on the television all the time, since it seems like they’re the latest form of reality TV, but what is the process really like? Is it really that way to go through the process? Do you have to use an intervention specialist?
In the real world of interventions, the addict or alcoholic is almost always in denial mostly because they don’t have a movie camera following them around for 30 days prior to the intervention. It doesn’t matter how much, how little or what someone is using, it really only matters what they are doing or not doing as a result of the use. So weather it is a drug intervention, because they are hiding their use or it is an alcohol intervention, and they admit they have a problem, using a professional to identify their behaviors and to handle all of the denial and manipulation of your loved one is the best option.
One of the things that happens fairly often with both family and their loved ones that is best to be aware of to ensure that no one falls into that trap is the “Yeah, but …” Syndrome, and it’s another way to phrase an excuse. Addicts and alcoholics want to stay comfortable and they will come up with every excuse to do so.
Let’s say that you want to get your loved one help, but you still have some doubts in the back of your mind. That’s when the “Yeah, but …” comes into play. It is far more difficult for your family to do an intervention than it is to get your loved one to go to treatment. Furthermore, it can be more difficult to handle the objections of the family to do the intervention than it is to handle the objections of the person to accept help.
“Yeah, but if I don’t bail them out of jail then they could get hurt on the inside.”
“Yeah, but if I call the cops, then they’ll get in trouble and I don’t want that.”
“Yeah, but if I just keep this a secret, then they can’t hurt anyone else.”
Sound familiar? These things happen to lots of people before they take the right steps to get their loved one into an intervention program, and it’s something almost everyone has to learn the hard as they wait for the addiction to correct itself.
These types of excuses can manifest themselves in thousands of different scenarios, and are all unique to your particular situation. Think about whether or not you’ve found yourself saying “Yeah, but …” about one thing or another. Maybe it was when your loved one tried to borrow money from you, or possibly it was when another family member explained why they gave them a place to stay after a big bender. Chances are pretty good you’ll find one or two of those situations coming to mind. It’s time to stop the cycle.