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Pertaining to Loved Ones
We all know the basic steps of an intervention involving an addict, an ultimatum, and either the person suffering will seek treatment or you will change their way of life in certain ways pertaining to the enabling you have provided them with previously. The definition of intervention is “interference so as to modify a process or situation”. The process or situation you want modified is the addiction that your loved one is suffering from that is harming them significantly and also those surrounding them. The definition of intervention will not change so much as the people making the changes from the drug intervention.
Enabling and the Consequences
Maybe you have purchased a car for the person who is abusing drugs or alcohol and allowed them to keep it even though they cannot pay for it, or are unsafe driving it. Perhaps you have permitted that person to live with you since they can no longer afford a place of their own. Or you might have kept them employed even though they cannot effectively do their jobs functions properly. Or you have made excuses for them as a parent and are still facilitating visits with their children even though they are in no position to take care of a little one. These are all ways you have enabled them to continue on with their way of life without any consequences. They cannot understand that what they are doing is wrong if nothing bad has happened to them as a result. The definition of intervention comes in here again where you are going to modify their process or situation by taking all of those good things away. At this time they do not deserve them, nor can they treat them with the care they should.
The loved one you are trying to get in to treatment may see these intervention services as a sort of punishment, but it is the opposite. You are giving them the gift of therapy and providing them a way to start over. Even though you will be taking things away from the person if they do not go to an addiction center, you will be giving them so much more when they come home clean, sober, and healthy. They need to be able to shoulder the responsibility of their ways and understand all that they can lose before they can see the light at the end of the tunnel.