It’s time to stage an addiction intervention for someone you love, and you’ve been asked to write a letter – where to begin?
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Interventions are stressful situations for everyone concerned. Emotions may run high during the intervention and it is difficult to remember everything you might want to say to the person struggling with alcohol or drug dependency. Writing and reading a letter during an intervention ensures that you get your feelings across uninterrupted, and in a constructive manner. Your intervention specialist will have more specific guidance, but what follows are a few general tips.
First and foremost, you letter should start with a statement of love and concern. Chances are many difficult emotions may arise when reading what you have written. However, this is the first step in the healing process. Talk about the happy times you spent together before alcohol and/or drugs became a problem.
Next, think back to a time when the subject of the intervention has done something wonderful for you, or been especially important in your life. During an intervention, addicts assume that they will be called out on prior bad behavior – they’re often surprised and genuinely moved when confronted with gratitude.
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Follow this with a statement of facts about negative behavior that come from your own first-hand knowledge. Stick to specific examples of things that you have seen that are directly related to alcohol and or drugs. Be graphic and specific about dates, times and places. Don’t minimize. Often, the person struggling with addiction won’t remember some of the things that have taken place. A family intervention is an opportunity for the addict to see just how bad things really have gotten. Tell this person what these actions have cost in terms of your relationship to each other. Share your hopes for what the relationship could become once he or she accepts treatment.
Lastly, finish up with love, and ask the addict to accept help for the illness.
When everyone on the intervention team follows this rough outline, the addict’s denial will begin to be worn away. The combination of loving support and hard facts often get those struggling with addiction into a place where they are able to accept help.
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