As a group your family and friends have not only watched your loved one start their addiction, but have witnessed it descend in to something that has become out of control. They have potentially lost their jobs, vehicles, children, homes, or anything else they cared about at one point in time. They have become a shell of a person that you want back. They can’t make the change alone, and you can’t get them the help they need all by yourself. This should be a joint effort by all parties involved, and not only will the support make it a more successful union, it will make it harder for the addict to say no when so many people are counting on them to get the help they all need.
When pursuing an intervention program, the people who have surrounded the addict need to get together and discuss the kind of treatment they feel would benefit their loved one the most, and how they are going to handle the actual confrontation. Bringing in a professional addiction mediator will not only diffuse the situation when the substance abuser is brought in to the discussion, but it will also allow everyone to hear every side and come to terms with the program that will be established for the help that everyone is going to get.
This was a joint effort. Everyone involved in this contributed in some way. Whether that was enabling with money, not telling law enforcement what was going on, keeping children that the addict should have been able to care for, making excuses to employers, or even giving the substance abuser a roof over their heads during the time they were using. Enabling is not the same as blame. Every family who has dealt with drug addiction intervention has gone through almost the same steps to get there. The point of the mediation is not to lay blame or guilt on anyone, but rather responsibility, accountability, and the choice to change.
Selecting certain intervention programs will allow everyone concerned to take the necessary steps to seek treatment. For the addict, this should be an in-patient setting usually where they can be surrounded by medically trained professionals who can monitor their physical condition as well as their mental stability. They can also be around people who are going, or have already been, through what they have and can help guide them to a whole new life of recovery.
The people who have encircled the addict through this tumultuous time also need help to realize the role they played and learn the ways to not repeat that same mistake again. When a recovering addict comes home, it should be to an entirely different scene with a new outlook on sobriety. The best way to create a successful rehabilitation is to get rid of the old ways of thinking and reprogram yourself and those around you to understand how to move on from this stage of your lives and get better. For each other.