Could you be Codependent?
There are four different types of codependency: Enabling, Avoidance, Enmeshed, and Controlling. Our codependency assessment consists of 30 yes/no questions to help identify behaviors that may contribute to ongoing struggles within the family.
Take our codependency assessment to see if anyone among your family members or others connected to the substance user has behaviors that are consistent with codependency. The person taking this quiz may be in a different position from the primary codependent enabler of the family. It is OK to think of the whole family as you take the quiz. Of course, your “no” may be another family member’s “yes.”
It is not uncommon for family members to become codependent to a substance user.
Substance users almost certainly become dependent on family. Over time, some family members may feel they are needed in the relationship or feel the enabling is a necessary evil to keep their loved one from going over the edge. As unhealthy roles in a family system form to balance out the destruction brought on by of the addiction, so too do codependent behaviors. Although the term dogma does not refer specifically to codependency, it has a certain relevance. Dogma is a set of assumptions and beliefs from an outside authority that guides one’s actions and behaviors. Codependency is similar in that one gives up one’s principles and view of reality, deferring to the reality of the substance user. Addiction can be viewed as the authority not to be questioned, as the new normal or standard. The reasons why people avoid intervention and therapeutic confrontation often result from some form of codependency coupled by fear of what might be lost if we cease doing what we’re doing for the substance user. Codependent individuals may believe they are doing something fulfilling for the substance user and will eventually see they were equally receiving some form of fulfillment for themselves. It is important to understand what codependency and enabling are doing to you rather than for the substance user. Being consumed with trying to support the substance user’s life puts at risk control of one’s own life.
An intervention is not about how to control the substance user; it is about how to let go of believing you can.
Is it time for an intervention?
It’s not always easy to tell when a loved one struggling with drugs or alcohol is in need of professional help. Find out if it’s time with our quiz.
Thankfully, families don’t have to host interventions alone. They can call in a trained professional to help ensure success and make the process easier. Find out how
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