An intervention goes well above and beyond the act of just trying to talk to your loved one about their addiction and to nudge them toward getting help. The most important thing to understand with an intervention is:
- It’s not possible to be both the family member and the interventionist; you need to be one or the other.
Intervention is about changing the family, not just delivering a speech or airing complaints to the addict or alcoholic. Drug addicts and alcoholics are almost always comfortable in their active addiction because of certain people, places and things keeping them comfortable.
How is a speech going to fix that? No matter how hard we try, it seems most people are unable to grasp the concept or understand the science of an intervention.
Why Seek a Whole-Family Addiction Intervention?
How many times has a family called us and asked, “Why do I need you? Can’t we just talk to them ourselves?” Sure you can. However, you already tried that 1,000 times and have been unsuccessful, so what’s going to be different now?
What becomes even more difficult is when a family calls us and says they spoke to their loved one and that the loved one has agreed to go to rehab. Sure, that’s great they are going to treatment, but still nothing has changed within the family system. Soon after treatment, the loved one will return home to the exact unwell, manipulated family system they left and that kept them comfortable in the first place.
Now you know why the success rate of treatment is so low, and it’s because families try and do the intervention themselves or they never do an intervention nor seek codependency counseling to help repair the family system that was broken by the addict or the alcoholic.
The Need for a Professional Intervention
If in the video above, our Founder and CEO, Mike Loverde, states, “Families have taken the role of fixing the addiction themselves, and they just can’t.” He also explains that every addict or alcoholic will face at least one form of an intervention at some point, whether:
- The family informally tries to do the intervention themselves,
- A professional comes to facilitate the intervention, or
- Society intervenes on its own terms.
Again, you can’t be both the loved one and the professional. The drug addict or the alcoholic in your family has trained your family system how to keep him or her comfortable at your expense; that’s what is broke and that’s what needs to be fixed.
Professional Intervention and Why the Family Must Change
The only way to do a truly effective intervention is to hire a professional, because what needs to change first is the family. Until the behaviors that allowed the addiction to get out of control change, the addict or the alcoholic won’t.
Time and time again, we hear families tell us their loved one does not want help, and that is simply not true. They don’t have to get help because the family has provided them with enough comfort that they don’t have to stop and seek treatment.