Bad information about how to approach addiction and intervention is the biggest impediment we see to alcoholics and addicts getting help and families getting better. At Family First Intervention, it’s our mission to help families understand how they can help save their loved ones from addiction.

With almost every call we receive, families are usually in the same situation and almost always ask the same important questions.


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Family First Intervention has interventionists from all different backgrounds and age groups, making it easier to assign the appropriate counselor to meet the family’s needs. Our entire staff has felt firsthand what addiction does to either themselves or a family member. For more information, please check out our website https://family-intervention.com.

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Ask Yourself These Common Questions to Know If Addiction Intervention Help Is Necessary

Let’s start with the No. 1 most frequently asked question of all:

Q: Do we need to wait for our loved one to want help or hit bottom before seeking professional addiction intervention help?

No, you don’t have to wait. In fact, you shouldn’t wait.

They often don’t realize it, but the family has the ability to change the situation on its own terms and to set new boundaries to hold the addict or alcoholic accountable. The most difficult task for the intervention counselor is helping families understand why almost everything they have been told and tried has been unsuccessful.

Most families put their efforts and energy into trying to “fix” or “change” the addict or alcoholic, rather than changing the situation. Families actually have the power and control to do the latter, but not the former.

As you watch the videos on this page, you will hopefully see there is no need to wait for your loved one to hit rock bottom or ask for help. The family has the ability to determine the success of an intervention. The addict or alcoholic can’t get drunk or high without the help of others, and that can be changed.

Through the loving, caring approach of an intervention, the family can take back control and help give their loved one a better life in the process.

Q: What if we do an intervention but the loved one says no or won’t go to treatment?

The better question is: What if you don’t try?

Even more to the point: What other option does the family have, besides sitting and waiting for things to get worse? No family wants that, which is why we are here to help you through the addiction intervention process.

Q: What is the role of fathers in an intervention?

Fathers play a very important role in interventions, and are often the deciding factor as to whether their son or daughter gets the help they need. Watch the following video to learn how.

Q: How do spouses and parents play different roles in a loved one’s addiction?

Whether the addict is closer to their parents or a spouse, enabling and possibly codependency issues will emerge as long as the addiction continues uninterrupted. Spouses, unfortunately, are usually too close to the situation to even desire to make the call for help. And in many cases, they try to sabotage the intervention.

If the addict or alcoholic somehow always seems to have money, a place to live and a vehicle to drive, it’s usually the parents who are supporting this lifestyle. This allows to addiction to get so much worse than it would otherwise be.


Q: Do alcoholics need an intervention?

Yes. Alcoholics can be especially difficult to convince to go into rehab because they tend to think that they’re different than drug addicts and that their problem isn’t that serious.

Q: How do I stop an addict from hurting our family?

Addicts sap a family of their resources – financial and emotional. Thankfully, families have the power to take back control of the situation.

Q: Why Can't They Kick This?

Addiction is an illness – something that you can’t beat by yourself. Many addicts and alcoholics are loving, caring and brilliant people, but at the end of the day, their brains are wired – or have been rewired – to think differently. For example, if they get pulled over for DUI, they will look for a new place to drink or use and take a new way home – instead of stopping their behavior and solving the real problem.

Q: Do I really need the help of a professional interventionist?

Addiction requires professional intervention and treatment just like other diseases, yet families often feel that they’re supposed to do the intervention themselves – even though they aren’t properly trained to do so. Or they hold off on staging an intervention, until the law or death does the intervention for them.

Q: Can an interventionist help us select a treatment center and deal with insurance?

Yes, some can. Over the years, Family First Intervention has become experts in helping families select a treatment center based on insurance, finances and necessity. We understand addiction treatment insurance and tell you what your insurance company won’t.

Q: Why Can't the Addict Pick the Treatment Center?

It’s pretty simple: The addict or the alcoholic will probably choose a treatment center that has the lowest standards of accountability. Choosing the path of least resistance goes hand in hand with addiction.
Watch this video to learn more about why letting your addicted loved one choose the treatment center is a bad idea:

Furthermore, the treatment should be happening outside of your family’s and the addict’s comfort zone. What does that mean? Find out in the following video:

Q: What if they hate the 12-step Program?

Twelve-step programs are far from the only option for recovery. That being said, Family First Intervention Founder Mike Loverde says he’s never seen anyone relapse who has worked the steps earnestly and exactly as directed.

Q: How can an intervention force even smart and savvy addicts to change their ways?

Prescription painkillers for a legitimate injury led to heroin addiction for Mike Loverde. With plenty of comfort and few consequences, Mike’s addiction dragged on because his family kept trying to help him…until they stopped. Listen to his firsthand account of the change that occurred after his family committed to his intervention.

The more you learn about addiction, the more you’ll see that it thrives when families financially or emotionally enable an addict. If the individual isn’t feeling the true gravity of their addiction, then somebody is enabling them.

Q: How do I know if I’m inadvertently enabling the addict in my family?

Watch this video on the four building blocks of enabling (guilt, hope, fear and victim) that drug addicts and alcoholics use to keep their families from doing nothing and/or supporting them in their addiction. You may recognize that you’ve fallen into one of these traps – or maybe all of them.

Q: What qualifies as enabling an addict?

Addiction can’t exist without support. Addicts need enablers. Taking away their support is the best way for families to cause them to “hit rock bottom” and seek the help they need.

Watch Mike Loverde’s interview with CNN about Michael Jackson’s fatal prescription pill addiction and his family’s unsuccessful attempt at intervention.

If I feel partly responsible for my loved one’s addiction, is it up to me to fix it?

If you feel even somewhat at fault for a loved one’s addiction, you might be tempted to try to fix it “in house.” The problem is, you’re essentially enabling and prolonging the addiction. Interventionist Mike Loverde speaks on this and other enabling behaviors – such as secrecy and blaming others – in the following short video.

Q: How do I make the addict in my family accountable for his or her addiction?

Addicts and alcoholics want to live a comfortable life and keep indulging their addiction. They’re not choosing the addiction over their family; they’re trying to have both. Families can intervene in this dynamic by no longer allowing the loved ones to stay comfortable in their addiction.

Q: Is addiction really a disease?

Many families think that addiction is a moral issue. Addiction is a disease. But it is a moral choice as to whether to seek help.

Q: What is the role of an interventionist?

A professional interventionist will spend significant time with the family to help them prepare for, and lead them through, the intervention itself. Often, the family needs more support than the addict because, while it’s clear what the addict’s problems are, it’s less clear to the family how they have been enabling. They also need to know how to change their behavior in order to truly support their loved one in getting well.

Depending on the substance, should I wait to call for help?

The symptoms of substance abuse will differ from substance to substance, but the behaviors of addicts are essentially the same. Mike Loverde explains further in the following video

Do I need to act quicker if the addict has kids?

Yes, no question! Children who live with an addict live in a traumatizing environment. If you’re not going to help the addict get help, then you need to act quickly to get the children out of that environment. But really, you shouldn’t wait even a day to help an addict or alcoholic when there are children involved.

Q: What happens after the intervention?

Would you believe that the intervention is actually the easy part of recovery? That’s because once treatment begins, resistance from the addict or alcoholic usually follows.

They could be two or three weeks into rehab, where they are feeling and looking better. They might be under the impression that they could leave the treatment center early and do the recovery work at home. It’s never a good idea to let them leave early.

That is just one of the many obstacles the family will face in recovery. The interventionist will help train and prepare the family for these kinds of pleas and potential recovery setbacks.

Get Professional Addiction Intervention Help Today By Calling

Our professional interventionists will help guide your family toward reliable solutions during this desperate time of need. We stand by the family throughout the recovery process. Your family has the power to heal and grow again. Call today 1 (877) 728-1122.

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