Before reviewing the codependency assessment, it is important to look at these behaviors as they relate to your loved one’s behaviors and addiction. For example, a father may read, “I usually think I know what’s best for other people,” and say, “That’s not me,” which may be so in a particular case. However, not wanting to do an intervention by thinking he can talk his son or daughter into treatment because dad knows what’s best – that would be an example of codependency.
A mother may say, “I don’t feel guilty when I say no,” and to most people in society, that may ring true. But when her son or daughter pressures her for $20 and the keys to the car, she may surrender out of guilt. Again, please view these behaviors in regards to specific situations in your home with your loved one and not your behavior outside of that.