Family First Intervention helps families identify the changes necessary to bettering their lives and the life of a loved one who may be suffering from alcohol or drug addiction. It is often said that a loved one must desire help or hit rock bottom before getting well, but this is not entirely true.
Addicts and alcoholics encourage families to enable them through guilt, hope, fear and victimhood in order to keep the family from changing. While a family is waiting for the loved one to want help or hit bottom, they are often being manipulated by the addicted individual, who is kept comfortable at the expense of the family.
The Connection Between Drug Addiction and Families
Drug addiction affects the families of addicts every bit as much as the addicts themselves. Families typically suffer from embarrassment and a sense of guilt with the knowledge that their loved one is an addict. Blame may be cast internally or at other family members for the addiction, and this can form deep divisions among loved ones.
Often, families will refuse to confront the problem with the hope that the struggling addict will change on his or her own and get back on track. Even worse, family members avoid taking action out of fear that they will drive their addicted relative away and toward even more dangerous activities or suicide. All this is compounded by addicts who position themselves as victims and prey on their family’s sympathy to continue their behavior.
An intervention is just as much, if not more, for the family as it is for the loved one. The addict cannot get high without additional resources. People, places, and things (such as money) are needed to maintain one’s addiction. Despite how they may feel, the family has full control of the situation. They just have to be shown and taught how to apply that control.
Because of the emotional attachment involved, it is important to consult with a professional before attempting anything with your loved one. Family First Intervention’s goal is to not only have your loved one accept help and willingly undergo treatment, but also to provide your family with closure in regards to your loved one’s addiction.
What We’ve Seen
Complete addiction recovery is a long-term process. Getting an addict to agree to treatment does not mean your family has set the necessary boundaries for long-term sobriety. Drug addicts will try to give you hope that one day they will get better. They placate the family into believing that things will be different tomorrow. The sad truth is tomorrow comes and nothing changes. Most of the addicts for whom we perform interventions are in denial about their addiction because they believe that the problem lies everywhere but with them.
Drug abuse interventions almost always deal with stubborn, self-centered and self-absorbed people who take no accountability for their actions and blame their problems on every other person, place or thing.
Drug abuse interventions are necessary precisely because addicts lack responsibility. Very rarely do we work with a person who is completely willing to enter treatment and who makes no excuses or denials.
We help addicts to confront the issue and take responsibility while also educating families and teaching them what level of care their loved one needs. Most importantly, we help families understand how to do all this in a loving and non-confrontational way.
Why Should You Consider a Drug Intervention?
Drug addiction can destroy lives and any family if not confronted and handled properly. Most families are unaware of what to do or where to turn when a loved one is addicted to drugs. Fortunately for families and substance abusers, an intervention is readily available for drug addiction.
With proper professional guidance, families can confront drug addiction head-on and begin getting their lives back in order. Until the family comes together and makes the decision to seek an intervention, drug abusers will continue to hurt not only themselves, but everyone close to them.
Drug abuse interventions are needed to break the cycle of abuse, blame, and enablement. Family First Intervention’s drug intervention program teaches families to recognize attempted manipulations while helping the addict take responsibility.
Our drug abuse interventions are successful due to the fact many addicts actually do want to quit using. The problem, however, is that they do not know how. Through Family First’s intervention program, we not only help your family confront the situation, but we can also ensure your loved one is willing to accept help through accountability and responsibility for his or her addiction.
How Does an Intervention Work?
Severe drug addiction is a truly fatal problem, but it is also 100 percent treatable. In our drug abuse interventions, we explain to families and substance abusers how to make the family less accountable and the drug addict more accountable for the addiction.
Familial roles are always a major factor in interventions because the addiction has created a system that cushions and enables the drug user. Interventions teach families how important it is to change behaviors to make the addiction more difficult for their loved one. It is true that addicts need to feel some sort of a bottoming out, and that cannot happen if everyone is aiding and supporting the loved one’s drug habits.
Our drug intervention process is designed to get your loved one willing to accept help and go directly to treatment. It is important for families and addicts to understand that intervention is built on the premise that the problem is the addict, and not necessarily the drugs themselves.
What You Should Know About Addicts
A substance abuser is almost always willing to do the shortest and quickest level of treatment, close to home, and without proper intervention for rehabilitation guidance. This can cause serious problems because, as with everything else, drug addicts are focused on instant gratification and taking the path of least resistance. That is one of the reasons these individuals self-medicate by abusing drugs.
In many cases, the family pays the bills, provides the car, buys the food, and pays for a lawyer while the drug addict is running the show. Addicts convince their families that if confronted with an intervention, they would walk away or not follow through. They also try to manipulate their families and loved ones, convincing them that the way things are now is the way things should be.
Addicts try feverishly to convince their families that they can fix the problem themselves by going to meetings or seeing a psychiatrist. They also often promise loved ones that if something bad were to happen, they would simply stop abusing drugs. Almost all addicts sincerely feel they can just stop, or even control their drug use, if they try hard enough.
An intervention for drug abuse is based on the premise that your loved one is the least qualified person in the entire family to determine diagnosis and treatment. Until families decide to do a drug abuse intervention, the addict’s preferred course of action will be to continue taking drugs. Until the individual is willing to accept responsibility for the addiction, his or her family situation will continue to get worse. It will eventually end with the addict in jail, institutionalized or dead.
When Is It Time for an Intervention?
Typically, when families call seeking an intervention it is at a point where things have spiraled out of control and the drug abuser’s actions are significantly affecting the rest of the family. But it needn’t be that way. An intervention can and should take place as soon as addiction is apparent. Don’t wait for your loved one to hit rock bottom, because by then, it may be too late for him or her to accept help.
Family First Intervention operates in all 50 states and has helped more than 2,500 families since we launched in 2008. If you’re even partially considering looking for help for a loved one who is struggling with drug addiction, you should make a call and inquire about an intervention sooner rather than later.