Most people are unaware that the intervention is just as much, if not more, for the family than it is for the person addicted to drugs or alcohol. An intervention ensures that codependency and enabling are addressed so that proper boundaries of accountability can be delivered to an addict or alcoholic.
After the intervention is over, what happens next? It is not the job of an interventionist to be your loved one’s addiction counselor once the intervention is completed. It is, however, the interventionist’s job to be the counselor for the family and to offer ongoing support for codependency and enabling.
While your loved one is in treatment, we figuratively hold your hand and offer support for whatever might arise throughout the recovery process. Sadly, many intervention companies offer ongoing services (with very expensive fees) – such as sober coaches, re-integration, monitoring and drug testing for your loved one – instead of focusing on helping your family get through the fallout from addiction.
Putting the Family First
What we offer at Family First Intervention is an extension of ongoing family support through our family drug counseling services. Although we spend a good amount of time with your loved one during the intervention and transportation process, we understand that it is now the treatment center’s role to provide counseling, trauma resolution, drug testing and discharge-planning services.
Think of our interventionists as the family’s treatment center and aftercare provider, since we offer ongoing support for what to do before, during and after the intervention. We also help the family understand the next steps of aftercare once the loved one completes a treatment program. Tacking on services for financial greed is not necessary. You and your insurance company pay the treatment center enough for those services already. We here to help you and your family.
Whether the family wants to hear this or not, they go through an emotional co-dependency detox regarding their loved one’s absence just as a substance abuser goes through a chemical detox from drugs or alcohol.
Extensive Range of Family Drug Counseling Services
Listed below is a small sample of what our ongoing family drug counseling services can provide to families once their loved ones head off to treatment:
- Continued support and guidance on what not to do for the loved one while they are in treatment
- How to answer the loved one’s questions when they call you from treatment
- How to handle their not wanting to stay for the full length of treatment or follow the aftercare instructions of the discharge planner from the treatment center
- What to do if the individual threatens to leave treatment
- What to do if they try to leave treatment
- What to do if the loved one does leave treatment and is calling you repeatedly, trying to persuade you to let them come home or to come get them
- How to keep everyone on the same page (Note: the addict or alcoholic will always call and try to break down the primary enabler or the weakest link in the family system)
- How to handle problems or accusations made about the treatment center, its staff or its accommodations
- How to write and send your accountability letter
- How to know when the loved one is lying or manipulating you, trying to convince you they can come home and do this on their own, when in fact what they just want to get drunk or high again
- How to stay the course and follow the boundaries outlined at the intervention
The Family System Is Crucial
Addicts and the alcoholics do not get drunk or high on their own resources. Having performed interventions for more than 10 years, we know that one common denominator is every addict and alcoholic has some person, place or thing that facilitates the addiction or makes it easy to return to active addiction. The worst thing a family can ever do is go back on their word after setting boundaries at the intervention.
Once an addict or alcoholic heads off to treatment, it becomes a battle of who will give in first, the substance abuser or the family. Almost every single time an addict or alcoholic does not accept help, leaves treatment or goes back to active addiction after treatment, it is because someone in the family fell back into codependency and enabling.
When a person attempts to leave or actually leaves treatment, nobody ever just does it solo. There is always someone to call in the family to help the addict or alcoholic make an escape. The loved one can’t leave the treatment center or get drunk or high without the support of an enabling family member or system that is not on the same page. The enabler makes the loved one comfortable by giving in to the lies and manipulation.
Family Drug Counseling Services Are Included with Every Intervention
By taking advantage of our family drug counseling, the family can hold their loved ones accountable and maintain their boundaries. When our family case management services are utilized and followed, your loved one is far more likely to succeed in treatment and throughout the aftercare process. It’s a vast improvement over simply falling back on your own self-will and letting the addict or alcoholic steer the situation.